Here is the 9th entry of my guest author project, today it’s Stina! I was so happy as I saw that Stina, one of my favorite bloggers, wrote me that she would like to make a guest post for me. I love her sense of style and her beautiful photos and I check her blog every day for updates!
Ihr könnt euch nicht vorstellen, wie erfreut ich war, als ich sah, dass eine meiner Lieblingsblogger, Stina, mir geschrieben hat, dass sie gerne einen Gastbeitrag bei mir machen würde. Ich liebe ihren Stil und Blog und schaue jeden Tag, was sie Neues zu berichten hat. Aber heute schreibt sie hier:
BEING A LADY AND CARE FOR STYLE
My name is Stina Auer and I’m a guest blogger at Anna’s very interesting and captivating lifestyle blog. I come from and live in Stockholm, Sweden and I am turning 32 years old in a couple of months. I’m together with M from Switzerland and he goes back and forth every week to Stockholm. Together we have our new little son, Alexis soon 5 month.
Just like Anna, I have a blog of my own and trying to categorise it can be quite tricky, but I guess I would refer to it as a lifestyle or photo blog, because it contains small parts of my life and lifestyle. But to me it is a place where I can work with one of my biggest hobbies: photography. I’ve been blogging for almost seven years now and it is a great way of being creative every day.
As a guest writer will write about being a lady and style with a big L and S. A lot of people in our world are fanatic about trying to be both a Lady and striving for Style but without understanding what those two sensitive subjects really mean when you break them down and look at them properly.
My life has always been about things that inspire me and about giving inspiration to others. Fashion, life as such, art in all its forms, family life, career and traveling in this great world of ours have always had a big impact on my life. From an early age, I had big goals both for myself and for my own development, love, my spiritual journey, career, and how I wanted my life to be.
This kind of goal oriented and aware living where you refuse to take the second best and are more than happy to work hard to receive the things you would like out of life and in the life you’re already living – is for me, Style. Style is not only about the way we evaluate clothing and beautiful decoration, Style is an amalgam of impeccable dressing, interesting persona and proper social behaviour. Style is about being aware of yourself, your life and never settling for poor quality anywhere. It’s about being a creative and focused person that always intends to have the best in life, whatever the theme may be. It’s in the details of the shoes you wear, the quality of your bed linen, the materials of your clothes but it is also the way you walk in the street or always leave the ladies room in a restaurant or bar in the way you would like to see it when entering. It’s about in what way you look at other people on the street, not talking behind peoples back, refuse to live in a relationship where you’re not satisfied, how you stand up when an older, pregnant or sick person enters a bus or a train. It’s about knowing what’s going on in the world and having a passion for something, like fashion, without being obsessed about its superficiality. Realising that fashion as an example, maybe makes your heart jump like it makes mine, but there is still greater things in life to achieve and be as thrilled about.
Even without all of those fashion accessories, you have an inside; a smart inside. You care just as much about something intellectual, something that stimulates your brain cells, as you do about your hair and you would just as easily love yourself without all of these physical things. Style is about how you behave, how you react, how you are as a person in soul, heart and action. To get it together, realise it – is Style, and the way you behave around it, is being a Lady. Style and Lady-like manners go hand in hand. Just because you have beautiful things or know hoe to dress, doesn’t make you either stylish or worthy of being a Lady. You earn these titles mostly because of your way of acting and your humbleness towards other people. It all goes hand in hand.
With that said, having the best in life is something that is not to be taken for granted, it is something you strive for, something you choose to strive for or not. I would actually take it one step further and say that either you are someone who is always seeking for the best or you are not.
And again, I am not talking about just material things; what I refer to is the mental journey you do, how much you actually allow yourself to develop and how aware you are about what in yourself you like and what in yourself you need to work with. Because even if you have a million dollar house, you will never be purely happy and satisfied if you are not in good terms with yourself and that is for sure not stylish. You are the only one responsible for what that inner person feels, wants and strives for when you take all the shields away and dig deep inside.
A Lady can combine these elements and can be proud of doing so. And as a fruit of this, a Lady has the true grace that people are so spellbound by. The impeccable Style for a Lady is as natural as her kindness. It surrounds her because it comes from the fact that she sees other people as peers she can learn from rather than as a threat.
I have always had a compelling need to combine superficiality with the deeper aspects of life. For me, they belong together if you want to make best of your dreams and your visions, whatever they may be.
The facade should never be more polished than the person underneath it all because it means nothing if you’re not also working as hard on the inside of you as you do on the outside The rest, that you dress yourself with on the outside is just what adds the final touch.
Meeting a beautiful, young or old woman that has that excellent way of dressing, manners and lifestyle and also finding out that she is the warmest of humans, is intelligent and has an awareness of the people around her and understands that everyone might not have come as far as she has – is just so inspiring. That kind of combination of humbleness, beauty, awareness, intellectuality, creativity, life knowledge – THAT IS STYLE. And to act that way – IS BEING A LADY, a Lady with Style. That is what inspires me over and over again. That is what I am striving for and that is what I think everyone should be striving for just as much as they tend to walk those extra miles for whatever will keep them glowing on the outside.
Merry Christmas and always remember that the relationship you make with yourself during your own journey is the most important one in your life. If you are happy and proud of yourself, wonderful opportunities will come naturally.