Here is the 9th entry of my guest author project, today it’s Stina! I was so happy as I saw that Stina, one of my favorite bloggers, wrote me that she would like to make a guest post for me. I love her sense of style and her beautiful photos and I check her blog every day for updates!

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Ihr könnt euch nicht vorstellen, wie erfreut ich war, als ich sah, dass eine meiner Lieblingsblogger, Stina, mir geschrieben hat, dass sie gerne einen Gastbeitrag bei mir machen würde. Ich liebe ihren Stil und Blog und schaue jeden Tag, was sie Neues zu berichten hat. Aber heute schreibt sie hier:

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BEING A LADY AND CARE FOR STYLE

Hi,

My name is Stina Auer and I’m a guest blogger at Anna’s very interesting and captivating lifestyle blog. I come from and live in Stockholm, Sweden and I am turning 32 years old in a couple of months. I’m together with M from Switzerland and he goes back and forth every week to Stockholm. Together we have our new little son, Alexis soon 5 month.

Just like Anna, I have a blog of my own and trying to categorise it can be quite tricky, but I guess I would refer to it as a lifestyle or photo blog, because it contains small parts of my life and lifestyle. But to me it is a place where I can work with one of my biggest hobbies: photography. I’ve been blogging for almost seven years now and it is a great way of being creative every day.

As a guest writer will write about being a lady and style with a big L and S. A lot of people in our world are fanatic about trying to be both a Lady and striving for Style but without understanding what those two sensitive subjects really mean when you break them down and look at them properly.

My life has always been about things that inspire me and about giving inspiration to others. Fashion, life as such, art in all its forms, family life, career and traveling in this great world of ours have always had a big impact on my life. From an early age, I had big goals both for myself and for my own development, love, my spiritual journey, career, and how I wanted my life to be.

This kind of goal oriented and aware living where you refuse to take the second best and are more than happy to work hard to receive the things you would like out of life and in the life you’re already living – is for me, Style. Style is not only about the way we evaluate clothing and beautiful decoration, Style is an amalgam of impeccable dressing, interesting persona and proper social behaviour. Style is about being aware of yourself, your life and never settling for poor quality anywhere. It’s about being a creative and focused person that always intends to have the best in life, whatever the theme may be. It’s in the details of the shoes you wear, the quality of your bed linen, the materials of your clothes but it is also the way you walk in the street or always leave the ladies room in a restaurant or bar in the way you would like to see it when entering. It’s about in what way you look at other people on the street, not talking behind peoples back, refuse to live in a relationship where you’re not satisfied, how you stand up when an older, pregnant or sick person enters a bus or a train. It’s about knowing what’s going on in the world and having a passion for something, like fashion, without being obsessed about its superficiality. Realising that fashion as an example, maybe makes your heart jump like it makes mine, but there is still greater things in life to achieve and be as thrilled about.
Even without all of those fashion accessories, you have an inside; a smart inside. You care just as much about something intellectual, something that stimulates your brain cells, as you do about your hair and you would just as easily love yourself without all of these physical things. Style is about how you behave, how you react, how you are as a person in soul, heart and action. To get it together, realise it – is Style, and the way you behave around it, is being a Lady. Style and Lady-like manners go hand in hand. Just because you have beautiful things or know hoe to dress, doesn’t make you either stylish or worthy of being a Lady. You earn these titles mostly because of your way of acting and your humbleness towards other people. It all goes hand in hand.

With that said, having the best in life is something that is not to be taken for granted, it is something you strive for, something you choose to strive for or not. I would actually take it one step further and say that either you are someone who is always seeking for the best or you are not.

And again, I am not talking about just material things; what I refer to is the mental journey you do, how much you actually allow yourself to develop and how aware you are about what in yourself you like and what in yourself you need to work with. Because even if you have a million dollar house, you will never be purely happy and satisfied if you are not in good terms with yourself  and that is for sure not stylish. You are the only one responsible for what that inner person feels, wants and strives for when you take all the shields away and dig deep inside.

A Lady can combine these elements and can be proud of doing so. And as a fruit of this, a Lady has the true grace that people are so spellbound by. The impeccable Style for a Lady is as natural as her kindness. It surrounds her because it comes from the fact that she sees other people as peers she can learn from rather than as a threat.

I have always had a compelling need to combine superficiality with the deeper aspects of life. For me, they belong together if you want to make best of your dreams and your visions, whatever they may be.

The facade should never be more polished than the person underneath it all because it means nothing if you’re not also working as hard on the inside of you as you do on the outside The rest, that you dress yourself with on the outside is just what adds the final touch.

Meeting a beautiful, young or old woman that has that excellent way of dressing, manners and lifestyle and also finding out that she is the warmest of humans, is intelligent and has an awareness of the people around her and understands that everyone might not have come as far as she has - is just so inspiring. That kind of combination of humbleness, beauty, awareness, intellectuality, creativity, life knowledge – THAT IS STYLE. And to act that way – IS BEING A LADY, a Lady with Style. That is what inspires me over and over again. That is what I am striving for and that is what I think everyone should be striving for just as much as they tend to walk those extra miles for whatever will keep them glowing on the outside.

Merry Christmas and always remember that the relationship you make with yourself during your own journey is the most important one in your life. If you are happy and proud of yourself, wonderful opportunities will come naturally.

/Stina Auer

www.awomanalifeablog.blogspot.com

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49 Comments

  1. n says: December 7, 2011 • 10:49:33

    Viel Text… Ich mag ihren Stil auch sehr gerne. Leider hat sie Botoxlippen, was sie gar nicht nötig hat :(

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  2. hannah says: December 7, 2011 • 10:50:16

    fürchterlich veroperiert. schade

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  3. sabrina says: December 7, 2011 • 10:57:27

    ich liebe ihren blog! ihre texte sind immer so toll geschrieben und von den bildern brauchen wir gar nicht reden anfangen (: find es wirklich klasse das sie sich bei dir gemeldet hat! und ihr sohn ist soooooo süß. wahnsinn! ?

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  4. Milli says: December 7, 2011 • 11:07:31

    Mich hat ihr Text sehr berührt. Auch wenn es rein optisch ein kräftezehrender Kampf durch die Bleiwüste war. Danke, liebe Mangobluete, für deine schönen Blicke über den Tellerrand. Auch wenn ich selten kommentiere. Ich mag deinen Blog sehr, weil er etwas Besonderes ist. Danke dafür. Das musste jetzt mal gesagt werden :D

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  5. Carina Khloè says: December 7, 2011 • 11:32:30

    WOW! Ich bin echt total begeistert! Ich liebe Stinas Blog sehr und ich finde sie ist wunderbar! :) Herzlichen Glückwunsch zu so einen tollen Gastautor! glg
    http://www.carinakhloe.tumblr.com

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  6. Tanja says: December 7, 2011 • 11:33:56

    Oh ich liebe Stina Auer. Sie ist meine absolute Lieblingsbloggerin. Schön, dass ihr euch gefunden habt. Ihr Blog wird täglich von mir gelesen und ich verehre ihren Stil, ihre Lebenseinstellung, ihre Lebensweise und ihren Kleiderschrank. Tolle Frau!!!!

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  7. sak says: December 7, 2011 • 11:43:40

    seitdem du damals ihren blog vorgestellt hast, verfolge ich ihn jeden tag. er ist mein absoluter lieblingsblog geworden. tolle frau.

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  8. Ines says: December 7, 2011 • 12:23:41

    Das ist wirklich ein toller Gastbeitrag und ich bin von ihr sehr begeistert :-)
    Besonders der Teil ihrer Schwangerschaft hat mir sehr,sehr gut gefallen,bin selbst gerade im 8.Monat und endlich sehe ich auch eine Schwangere,die ihren Babybauch nicht versteckt und trotzdem noch Wert auf Mode legt.
    Danke,dass ich durch dich zu ihrem Blog gekommen bin!

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  9. bling.bling says: December 7, 2011 • 12:45:04

    der text ist mir zu lang, da mag ich jetzt gar nicht drüber lesen. ich klicke ab und zu auf ihrem blog vorbei und mag ihn recht gerne, sie hat einen guten geschmack. lediglich ihre schlauchboot liPPen müssten nicht sein. ich glaube sie wäre ohne diese exemplare viel hübscher! :-()

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  10. latraviatahoe says: December 7, 2011 • 13:59:48

    Was für eine schöne Frau! und sie schaut trotzdem natürlich aus! das nachhelfen steht ihr gut.

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    • latraviatahoe says: December 8, 2011 • 03:08:32

      Ihr schmalbelippten Wurstnasen seid doch bloß Neidisch! :D lasst das ”gefällt mir nicht-Button Gedrücke” sein!

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  11. The Gentlewoman Blog says: December 7, 2011 • 14:12:11

    Dear Anna,

    Stina truly has that special sense of Style and a deepness that makes her blog so wonderful to read. Now, thanks to Stina, I found your beautiful blog which will be a pleasure to read and follow.

    Kind regards,

    G

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  12. Joshs says: December 7, 2011 • 14:20:40

    So toll geschrieben!! WOW!
    -Josh
    http://www.JoshsFinestThings.com

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  13. Sel says: December 7, 2011 • 15:07:20

    schrecklich. gleich auf ihrer 1. seite ein foto ihrem baby und ugg boots. meine güte, muss denn dieser markenwahn unbnedingt schon auf ein 5monate altes baby übertragen werden?

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    • Rafaela says: December 7, 2011 • 15:24:29

      Sicherlich muss das nicht sein. Aber ich denke mir, dass aus einer anderen Perspektive die Marke eine gewisse Sicherheit bietet: UGG kann es sich nicht leisten, dass z.B. ihre Babyschuhe irgendwelche Schadstoffe beinhalten. Wenn in no-name Schuhen sowas zu finden sind, verliert dieser Noname Hersteller nichts. UGG verliert “sich selbst”.
      Deshalb würde ich gerade bei Babys auf Marken achten!

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    • Carina Khloé says: December 7, 2011 • 18:46:31

      Wenn du ihren Blog lesen würdest, anstatt zu urteilen, dann würdest du wissen, dass sie die Schuhe geschenkt bekommen hat und nicht selbst gekauft hat ;) lg

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    • Inéssa says: December 7, 2011 • 20:06:41

      Die Uggs waren ein Geschenk zur Geburt einer Freundin ;)

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      • n says: December 7, 2011 • 20:08:40

        Zur Geburt einer Freundin ?

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        • Inéssa says: December 7, 2011 • 20:11:57

          Eine Freundin hat die Schuhe zur Geburt geschenkt sorry ;)

        • n says: December 7, 2011 • 20:19:05

          haha, war doch lustig :D

  14. sabrina says: December 7, 2011 • 15:40:04

    ihre schwester hat auch einen blog: http://mellowwave.blogspot.com/

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  15. Ekaterina says: December 7, 2011 • 15:54:33

    Mehr Bilder hätten mich mehr angesprochen! Das ist ja schon wie ein Buch…

    Mich spricht die Lady gar nicht an! Schließe mich Hannah an: Fürchterlich veroperiert!!!

    Guter Stil??? Naja, über Geschmack lässt sich streiten! Aber teuer heißt nicht automatisch auch Stil!!!

    Liebe Grüße, Ekaterina

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  16. Jessi says: December 7, 2011 • 18:12:50

    Sie erinnert mich auf dem letzten Foto irgendwie an Nicole Kidman und wie oft diese an sich rumschnibbeln ließ, weiß man ja..

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  17. jenny says: December 7, 2011 • 20:05:43

    Superb author and wonderful woman. Very inspiring!

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  18. jenny love says: December 7, 2011 • 20:09:25

    superb author and very inspiring and beautiful woman.

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  19. Issa says: December 7, 2011 • 21:12:08

    Such a wonderful article Stina and thank you Anna for this opportunity to get to know yet another lovely blog-owner. Greatings from Italy

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  20. Jule says: December 7, 2011 • 22:19:09

    Großartig! Ich liebe Stinas Blog, ihre Bilder sind immer super, sie muss ein tolles leben führen! ich wünsche ihr, m & alexis alles erdenklich gute!

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  21. claudia says: December 7, 2011 • 23:28:46

    tolle bilder ! toller blog!

    aber wie kann frau sich so schön finden? – für mich unvorstellbar- das gesicht wie eine barbie…. -geschmäcker sind verschieden, und offensichtlich gefällt sie sich

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  22. nina says: December 8, 2011 • 00:30:03

    Stina’s Schwester hat übrigens genau die gleichen Lippen, das Botox wurde wohl vererbt…

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  23. Issa says: December 8, 2011 • 01:05:36

    Stina have been pregnant for nine month and breastfeeding now for almost half a year so clearly she have had NO Botox in more then a year because you can’t inject during those circumstances. She showen picture from a very ung age, and also picture from when her sister was very young, like 13 years old and she had those lips naturally. You can’t blame her if you think she looks like a Barbie.Some just do……naturally. Maybe she takes good care of herself???? Her mother is very beautiful also you can see if you follow her blog. ///Issa

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  24. Lina E says: December 8, 2011 • 01:13:38

    so funny,,,,

    This is exactly what the article is about.,,,,it’s not stylish or ladylike to talk about someones looks in this way and that is one of the things she tries to explain in the article. clearly jealousy,,,,,,or bad upbringing or poor social behavior. or nooo intelligence,,,,,,,,,,,

    hhaaahhhaa,,,
    some just don’t get it at all.

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  25. n says: December 8, 2011 • 08:15:59

    Sie arbeitet selbst in einer Schönheitsklinik und im Netz gibt es Filme wie sie Ihre Patienten mit Botox behandelt. Ich kenne mich nicht so aus, aber sie nimmt Botox gegen Falten und spritzt die Lippen auf…Ich finde ihren Blog wirklich sehr stilsicher und elegant und sie macht tolle Fotos, nur finde ich ihre philosophischen Gedanken a la Kaballa und ihre Einstellung zu Perfektion passen überhaupt nicht zusammen. Wie kann ich ständig von innerer Harmonie und Schönheit der Natur schreiben und gleichzeitig, mit Anfang 30, das kleinste Fältchen im Gesicht nicht ertragen?

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    • DeadAmy says: December 8, 2011 • 11:10:41

      Sehe ich auch so, wenn man wirklich innerlich mit sich im Einklang ist, bekommt man keine Panik wegen einem Fältchen, greift man nicht wegen natürlichen, körperlichen Veränderungen zu Spritze oder Skalpell.Real Ladys don´t do surgery!

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  26. Katja says: December 8, 2011 • 14:13:06

    Sie fotografiert ihr Kind ständig, ein Foto nach de Geburt wäre ja ok gewesen.
    Als wäre es ein Mode Accessoire…

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  27. Stina Auer says: December 8, 2011 • 14:26:21

    Hi Everyone!

    Thank you for the comments on this article. It is truly funny though how the way I look can disturb so many of you.

    So let me tell you what I have done to my face once and for all.

    I regulary did Botox between my eyebrows before I got pregnant. I do it both because I like it and work with it but manly because of my severe migraine. I started at a young age, before I even knew what Botox was because of my neurogolist insisted and recommendations. It has helped me a lot with my every day pain. I have never used Botox in ANY other area, mainly because I am still young and don’t have any wrinkles yet.
    Yes, I have injected Hyaluronic acid (Restyane) into my lips when I was younger because I think it is beautiful with fuller lips.

    What you should know though is that I have been trying to get pregnant for many years before I got my son and did hormone treatments and In vitro injections to be able to become a mother – therefore I have hardly done ANYTHING to my face for many, many years. Not even chemical peelings or anything. I use good skinproducts and eat a lot of fruit and vegetables and try to be out in the nature as much as possible.

    So. Now you know. Please let go of this uninteresting subject about my look and my face. It must be thousands of more intellectual topics out there for you to discuss.

    Best Regards
    Stina Auer
    http://www.awomanalifeablog.blogspot.com

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  28. Stina Auer says: December 8, 2011 • 14:43:54

    Hi Everyone!

    Thank you for the comments about this article. It is funny though how the way I look can disturb so many of you and that you can so easily jump into conclusion about what I have done or not, without even knowing me.

    So let me tell you what I have done to my face and not once and for all.

    Before I got pregnant I use to do Botox between my eyebrows and in my forhead. Both because I liked it but manly because of my severe migraine. In fact my neurologist recommended Botox as a treatment for this before I even had the knowledge about the aesthetical parts of it. It worked well and helped me with my every day pain.
    I have never done Botox in ANY other area in my face, mostly because I am still young and don’t have wrinkles yet.
    In my lips I use to inject somethings called Restlane (Hyaluronic acid) but haven’t done that either in a very long time.

    I have’t done ANYTHING else to my face because of the fact that I tried to get pregnant for 4 years and did hormone treatment and in vitro treatments to be able to become a mother before I had my son.
    I haven’t even done chemical peelings or anything like that. What I use is good skin products and eat a lot of fruit, vegetables and try to be out in the nature as much as possible. I use to have a lot of baby-fat in my face when I was younger, which I hated of course, but it is very good for the aging process. I know I might look a little bit younger then I am, but that has to do with genes, nothing else.
    Since one and a half year back I haven’t even done Botox in my forhead so the pictures in my blog is pure natural, despite that I still have fuller lips.

    So, now you know. So please stop this uninteresting discussion about my face and the way I look, There most be much more intellectual subjects out there to be discussed.

    Best regards
    Stina Auer
    http://www.awomanalifeablog.blogspot.com

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    • latraviatahoe says: December 8, 2011 • 14:48:43

      Theyre just jealous and frustrated! you are extremly beautiful!

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    • Macs in the City says: December 8, 2011 • 16:02:02

      Dear Stina – not a big fan of botox and such personally, but nevertheless I must say how disturbing and rude I found those lame comments regarding your looks, esp. how they spoke “about” and not “with” you. Since yesterday I wanted to ask them, if they really assume you wouldn’t be reading the comments following up on your wonderful post?! Your polite and explanatory way (regarding migraine) of replying shows that you’re a true lady! Love your style – xox, Macs :-)

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    • Miss Framboisette says: December 8, 2011 • 20:18:22

      Stina, congratulations to your lovely baby son ! You´re so brave to have gone through all the treatments and you can be so lucky to have him now. You really seem to be a happy family :) Best wishes for your future !

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  29. Jenni says: December 8, 2011 • 15:12:44

    Sehr schön geschrieben von Stina und auch dass sie dazu Stellung genommen hat. jedem sei doch selbst überlassen was er mit sich macht. Ich finde sie schön. Punkt.

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  30. hannah says: December 8, 2011 • 16:51:25

    stina, your style is beautiful – of course – but to me your face looks a bit weird…maybe it’s just because of the lips… i don’t really know. anyway. your blog is just fine.

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    • Carina Khloè says: December 9, 2011 • 12:45:35

      What a rude comment! Not very ladylike to tell someone their face looks weird.

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  31. n says: December 8, 2011 • 18:26:11

    Ich betone nochmals, dass ich den Blog von Stina A. sehr ästhetisch fotografiert finde und Ihre Eleganz mich sehr anspricht. Trotzdem finde ich die Verwendung von Botox und Silikon im Gesicht dann nicht mehr ästhetisch und auch nicht im Einklang mit Körper und Geist. Das Botox zur Bekämpfung von Migräne verwendet wird und die Lippen natürlich sind, sorry, bezweifele ich. Botox bildet sich ja zurück, aber das Lippenimplantat bleibt, es sei denn, man entfernt es. So hat sie es ja auch in einem älteren Post beschrieben. Wenn man selbst in der Gesichtsverjüngungs – Branche arbeitet und im eigenen Blog Werbung dafür macht, sollte man diese Kritik auch annehmen können. Trotzdem finde ich Ihren Blog sehr schön, obwohl ich diesen Punkt nicht gut finde.

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  32. julia says: December 8, 2011 • 20:29:21

    anna, ich bin geschockt, dass du einige dieser kommentare (die so gar nichts mit dem beitrag an sich zuzun haben), veröffentlichst..

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    • Ivy says: December 9, 2011 • 13:40:47

      von mir stammt zwar keiner dieser Kommentare, ich gehe auch nicht mit ihnen d’accord. Aber ich finde in keinem Kommentar eine Beleidigung. Weshalb sollten sie dann nicht veröffentlicht werden? Angst vor Kritik?

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      • Ivy says: December 10, 2011 • 23:36:14

        Bzw. wollte ich damit sagen, dass ich weiß, dass Anna keine Angst vor Kritik hat.

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  33. Career advice says: December 10, 2011 • 22:02:47

    I’m having a tiny problem I can’t seem to be able to subscribe your feed, I’m using google reader by the way.

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  34. Bendida says: December 11, 2011 • 14:10:34

    Nice style…

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  35. Kat says: December 11, 2011 • 15:38:06

    I just checked out Stinas blog. Lovely pictures but her way of writing (in Swedish) is ridiculous. It aspires to be of a level she doesn´t command. The result is not good.

    When reading peoples comments here, I realize it´s the same old, boring, stuff people complain about. The way someone looks! How utterly boring. Why do people feel the need to be mean about a persons looks. Tasteless.

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